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Family Woes
Actually, I wanted to make a post about how much I love my favorite show at the moment. I might still do that later on. Right now, my family swept in and killed the mood with ever-present skill.
I love my family. I really do. They're great people, and I get along with them most of the time.
They won't just let me do my thing, though.
I know that I'm not exactly a person with a completely normal lifestyle. I usually sleep during the day, not in the night. I like it better that way. I'm not a very sociable person, meaning I don't seek out the company of others all that much. My life is kinda chaotic. I like it that way, though. My family doesn't. Am I trying to force them to live like I do? No. They're obviously trying to launch another attempt at making me live like they do, though. My parents summoned me for a "conversation" this week-end. I know exactly how this is gonna go: we're all going to sit in the living room, my mom will have made coffee in order to make us all feel like we're just having a casual conversation like any family might on a Saturday afternoon, and then they're going to tell me that I need to change my lifestyle. I will nod and say yes until they finally decide to shut up, and then I will not stay there for the night but drive home because I'm quietly seething with anger, and I will resent them for a couple of weeks, and then everything will start anew.
Why the fuck can't they just leave me alone? I liked it a lot better when I was living 400km away and they didn't see or hear anything that was going on in my life aside from what I decided to let them know. And people wonder why I want to emigrate.
I love my family. I really do. They're great people, and I get along with them most of the time.
They won't just let me do my thing, though.
I know that I'm not exactly a person with a completely normal lifestyle. I usually sleep during the day, not in the night. I like it better that way. I'm not a very sociable person, meaning I don't seek out the company of others all that much. My life is kinda chaotic. I like it that way, though. My family doesn't. Am I trying to force them to live like I do? No. They're obviously trying to launch another attempt at making me live like they do, though. My parents summoned me for a "conversation" this week-end. I know exactly how this is gonna go: we're all going to sit in the living room, my mom will have made coffee in order to make us all feel like we're just having a casual conversation like any family might on a Saturday afternoon, and then they're going to tell me that I need to change my lifestyle. I will nod and say yes until they finally decide to shut up, and then I will not stay there for the night but drive home because I'm quietly seething with anger, and I will resent them for a couple of weeks, and then everything will start anew.
Why the fuck can't they just leave me alone? I liked it a lot better when I was living 400km away and they didn't see or hear anything that was going on in my life aside from what I decided to let them know. And people wonder why I want to emigrate.
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They just have a hard time accepting that you're grown up. But they will, one day.
There's one funny example I remember from when I was studying: I used to come home every weekend to wash my clothes and see friends (and *not* spend time with my parents). And my mother talked to me and said "I don't mind you just coming home to wash your stuff, but your father really misses you". And my father came to me the next day and said "We should really spend some time together on saturday. I know you're all grown up now, but your mother still misses you terribly."
It stopped after about two years. I was still coming home every month, and I still talk to my mom on the phone every sunday, even now. But at some point they just accepted that I can fend for myself.
I think you're doing the right thing to talk to them honestly. It will take some time of hurt feelings and adjustments and misunderstandings until they can wrap their heads around the fact that you're responsible for your life now.
It will probably also help if they don't support you with money anymore. Just be patient. :)
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That is the one thing I do feel a little bit guilty about. They're essentially financing my life. But I can't go to uni and earn enough money to be without their support at the same time. Sometimes, I'm tempted to try, anyways...
Well, I hope all goes well on Saturday, and I won't have to scream and shout and bite somebody ^^.
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I know how it is, yeah.
It depends a lot on how serious you are with your studies and how long you want to take for finishing them. Work takes a lot of strength you really would need to study successfully.
I personally wouldn't have wanted to study for a single semester longer than necessary, so I also never considered getting a well-paying job. I just got the studies over with on my parents' money and started earning money afterwards.
I know a lot of people who didn't finish their studies because they had to work. Most of them ended up taxi drivers for life. :( Not an appealing prospect.